We’ve all been on first dates. Whether they have led to a relationship or ended after a few dates, we all know the pressure and anxiety that comes with this first inaugural meeting. In fact, first dates can be classified as one of the most nerve-racking situations in society. But I will let you in on a little secret: the key to a successful first date is calm, comfortable conversation. This can be easily accomplished through well-chosen first date questions.
Who has been the biggest influence in your life?
By asking this question, you will better understand your date’s morals and values. It will also show you who they will turn to for guidance and advice.
Where is your favorite place in the entire world? Why?
Whether it’s the beach, mountains, or somewhere in between, this question will give insight into your dates’ character.
What is your favorite movie of all time? Why?
Not only will this show your dates’ tastes and interests but it is also a good indicator to see if you are compatible.
What is your biggest goal in life right now?
This question will not only tell you how ambitious your date is but will give insight into the exact stage of life that they are in.
What is your favorite way to spend your weekend?
The answer to this question will show your date’s lifestyle, interests, and hobbies. This is another good question to see if you are compatible.
What was your family like growing up?
Getting a glimpse of how your date was raised will express to you how they will raise (or in some cases, not raise) their future children. This answer is also indicative of how much your date has been dealt with in life, showing even more of their character.
What do you find attractive?
Besides having chemistry and physical attraction, listen closely to what qualities your date describes. The answer to this question is telling to what exactly they want in a partner. And more often than not, the qualities they list are ones that they possess themselves.
What is one day that you would love to relive?
This question is quite telling as you not only get a glimpse into your date’s life but you get to relive it with them for those brief minutes as they describe it to you.
Of course these questions are just the first step. As long as you listen intently, aren’t too personal or eager, and are genuine, you are sure to have an enjoyable first date.
